Whether you’re family or a friend, we know you try to be supportive when someone you care about is ill or injured. Often it is difficult to just stand by and watch this person struggle to do very simple tasks. The urge is to take over and do for the person. However, when you take over too quickly, you do not allow the person the chance to master the most basic of daily tasks. Understand that a great deal of our own self worth comes from our ability to maintain our dignity, if not our actual independence. The person you care about is struggling to master skills such as eating, personal hygiene and dressing sees these skills as measures of his or her self worth. Be supportive, ask before you take over and encourage your loved one to try again. Speed is not the goal. Progress is.