Grief & The Holidays

Losing someone special dims your celebratory spirit, especially during the holidays when the loss is magnified and we miss our lost loved ones more. The need for support may be greater than ever and isolating yourself is not the answer. Grief is normal and should be embraced rather than avoided because no one can take the pain away. Grief is more than pain; grief is love and the way out of the pain as you mourn your loss.    



Here are some do’s and don’ts for you or someone you know who is grieving to remember during the holidays.

Do’s and Don’ts
  • Do be gentle with yourself and protect yourself.
  • Don’t do more than you want, and don’t do anything that does not serve your soul and your loss.
  • Do allow time for the feelings.
  • Don’t keep feelings bottled up. If you have 500 tears to cry don’t stop at 250.
  • Do allow others to help. We all need help at certain times in our lives.
  • Don’t ask if you can help or should help a friend in grief. Just help. Find ways; invite them to group events or just out for coffee.
  • Do, in grief, pay extra attention to the children. Children are too often the forgotten grievers.


Below are some resources which may be helpful to you or someone you know who is grieving.

Catholic Hospice care extends to the family of the patient with bereavement and counseling services. Call 800-533-3933 to request information or learn more at

Camp Erin is a weekend-long-sleep-away camp full of fun, friendship, support and healing for grieving children where they learn they are not alone and that their feelings are normal. They have a safe environment to express themselves with other children going through a similar experience. Learn more at